Friday, January 14, 2011

In Memoriam: Thomas Dooney

My father, Thomas Dooney, died today, just five days before his 66th birthday.
This is my favorite photograph of him, taken in 2009. Indomitable and defiant, he rode his customised Harley Davidson even while enduring chemotherapy and radiation.
Without his early encouragement, I might still have become an artist but without his love and commitment to me as a single parent, I would never have become as independent, determined, and dismissive of convention.
I love him deeply. I miss him more than words can express.

27 comments:

Georgia said...

My thoughts and empathy are with you in the very difficult time. He gave you the strength to endure it, and you have the gifts to make something positive arise in your work to honor this loss.

Laura Lynch said...

hazel, i'm so very sorry for your loss... laura.

Leila Anasazi said...

My heart is with you.

Mike Wood said...

A wonderful tribute that says it all. He certainly nudged you in the right direction, Hazel.

A great photo. I hope you have it blown up somewhere one day. :)

Verena said...

i'm so very sorry for your loss hazel, my thoughts are you. send you my deepest condolences
verena

José Luis Moreno-Ruiz said...

I'm sorry so much, Hazel. I send you my condolences and my best wishes for you.
JL

Forrest said...

Sorry for your loss Hazel. Sounds like you were very close to your father and will have alot of memories to comfort you as time goes on. He pushed you in the right direction.

JenXer said...

I can see the resemblance to him in your face; I'm glad he gave you such a fierce spirit as well.
I am so sorry for your loss.

Pam said...

So sorry about your loss-- a tear in the universe. I love the photo.

Karen Martin Sampson said...

Sending sincere condolences, Hazel, and a hug from Canada. I lost my Dad three years ago and I know I will always miss him. Love the photo of your Dad on his bike.

Elizabeth said...

My condolences Hazel. Take good care of yourself.

Anonymous said...

The photograph is lovely Hazel. Your dad looks far too young to lose his life. He can live on in your heart and soul, a fortunate man with two beautiful talented children. Take comfort in your wonderful memories and his love.

I was very close to my sister who died in 2003 aged 47. Although we had our differences which caused pain nothing was more agonising than her loss. Time does help.

Vida

Anonymous said...

Beautiful Bike.

Wonderful Daughter.
Very Proud of You,
Hazel, I'm Sure.

Rest In Peace,
Thomas Dooney.

Carol Lee Beckx said...

My deepest condolences, Hazel.It's very hard to say goodbye to one's Father.

spiritchild said...

dear Hazel

deeply felt compassion,
so sorry.
kindest loving regards

Lea said...

Hej !
thinking of you, much love, lea,xxx

Clayton Hansen said...

Very sorry Hazel - from all that you have written I'm sure he felt loved and cherished by you; a comfort like no other.

Anonymous said...

Hi hazel so sorry for your loss , Loosing someone so close is NEVER easy ! My memory races back two years ago to the loss of my Angel of a Mother ! Thinking of you , love Mark .

Kurt Harden said...

God rest his soul. What a picture.

Melissa said...

Hazel, this is my first visit to your blog. I'm so sorry to read of your father. My thoughts are with you in this time of sorrow. May your memories help comfort your loss and may you grieve and give yourself time to feel and heal.

Clayton Hansen said...

Hi Hazel,

I just wanted to send you this - it's by Raymond Carver, a favorite of mine.

I think it speaks to the relationship you had with your Dad that you've recounted so touchingly in this Blog, especially these last months:

Late Fragment
Raymond Carver

And did you get what
you wanted from this life, even so?
I did.
And what did you want?
To call myself beloved, to feel myself
beloved on the earth

frederic said...

Dear Hazel,
Often I am silly in my talk, but I am thinking of you ,You have quite difficult time accumulating, your work, the floods, your health and now, expected yes, but still a chock,you father gone. if at any time you feel a need, you are welcome around here, Provence, not much but quite a change from Australia. Again most my thoughts are for you with a little bite of love, friendly love I mean.Frederic

Anonymous said...

I just heard about your Dad, Hazel, from mum (Janet).
My condolences to you, your mum and brother. He was a good bloke.
Tom.

Danielle said...

Condolences Hazel...beautiful words and so very sad to hear :(

Anonymous said...

As someone Jewish I wish you "long life", meaning that as long as you live, he is carried with you.

wilsonreps said...

very sorry for your loss

Anonymous said...

May his soul rest in peace and his life always remembered with love. Blessings for you and your family Hazel, much love, Kellie.